Angry young men

This week I have been dealing with quite a few angry young men. I put out an appeal on twitter to see what resources people might suggest using but in the end I created the following as a tool for encouraging reflection and solution focus.

Please feel free to feed back / adapt / use.

 

 

Reflecting on my anger

Think about what happened yesterday:

When, where, who else was there?(eg in history class, when the register was being done) What did I do? (eg shout, swear, lash out, punch, kick, walk out, take deep breaths and stay calm) What SPECIFICALLY triggered the way I acted? (eg something someone said, a look someone gave, something that had happened earlier but was still in my head) What happened next? (eg referral, detention, exclusion) How had I been feeling earlier in the day? (eg when I woke up, came into school, at break, at lunch)

Think back over the last few weeks and note down the times when you have felt or shown extreme anger.

Then, for each one, fill in the columns to the left.

When, where, who else was there?(eg in history class, when the register was being done) What did I do? (eg shout, swear, lash out, punch, kick, walk out, take deep breaths and stay calm) What SPECIFICALLY triggered the way I acted? (eg something someone said, a look someone gave, something that had happened earlier but was still in my head) What happened next? (eg referral, detention, exclusion)
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Now look at the examples above and write the numbers of the ones where you controlled your anger successfully:

Now, thinking again about the situations where you have controlled your anger, write down the things that helped (eg breathing deeply, counting to ten, walking out for a break, having a friend or someone else talk to you and help you notice what was happening):

Now write down the things that you can do to help yourself from having another extreme anger outburst:

Now write down the support you need from others to help yourself from having another extreme anger outburst:

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